Normal

Before I go off on my usual tangent or rant I want to take a second to wish a lot of my friends well.

I really want to wish a happy fathers day to Sully,Annah,Keith and Tim. I hope you all get some quality time with those who have made this day yours..


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And away we go!


I've had a lot of time to think over the last week about things and this one theme keeps popping up in my mind over and over again. What exactly is "normal" and how do we not only perceive that but achieve our own sense of it within ourselves.

When young boys are asked what they want to be when they grow up they often respond with being a fireman or a policeman and little girls with doctor or nurse, typical positive role models hopefully. When asked that question looking back on it maybe a good answer would have to just been "Normal"

So what is a sense of normalcy in our own lives vs those that society places on us within our given roles? I remember dealing with a range of emotional issues as a kid and not only feeling out of place in my world but also very abnormal. As a teenager being in an awkward place in life I had got myself to the point where I actually believed there was something deeply wrong with me mentality. This wasn't because I was learning disabled or weird, but more so because I didn't always feel like I belonged where I stood in relation to others in life.. I never felt intelligent even though later in life this would prove to be way off base..

I often sit and think about the human race, peoples perceptions and social advancements over the course of history. It is very apparent that human beings have evolved and grown more intelligent. We as a species have continually evolved to become not only what we are presently but much more advanced for generations to come. In this thinking I have always fallen back on 1 idea that I seem to get stuck on...


"The smarter and more advanced the human race becomes the more fucked up we become!!!"

We look at each other with specific labels, expectations and worst of all judgments. This isn't to say that society doesn't have its share of pariahs, but anything that is deemed different is always boxed and shipped out as a negative thing. The only way we as human beings can continue to evolve is to accept that there are no true boxes when it comes to the human brain.

Everything seems to be negated to black and white, right or wrong yet there is rarely ever a shade of grey when it comes to how we view other people. We are constrained by religion,politics and hatred by people who view difference as not only deviant but wrong.

One of the things in being involved with internet bulletin boards over the last 10 years or so is the richness in not only meeting and interacting with new people, but learning about the values in what makes everyone different.

Difference is not an abnormal thing and it is that individuality that helps each person shape their views and help the human race move forward by thinking outside of the proverbial box.

So why do we judge and allow people to be dictated to for simply being who they are?

Take the case of gay marriage for instance. While I can understand the control of marriage within religion defining a man and a woman specifically for the act of procreation it baffles me to think that it needs to over flow into civil life.

So why can't we extend the box to state that 2 human beings can not only love each other but share in each others lives such that all their possessions and rights are protected by law. I've always believed the constitution was setup in a manner to not infringe on the right of any minority yet we allow the religious right to not only dictate to our spiritual laws but our civil laws as well.. All because they what view as different they are allowed to label as wrong behaviour...

Do we look down on other cultures because they are different or do we fascinate ourselves by learning the richness of others who in fact contribute intellectually,spiritually and artistically to the foundations of the human race ...

I think it is about time we all learn to lose the hatred and just move forward together and worry about our own differences not those of others ...